Something that holds many people back from pursuing or achieving their dreams is fear, fear of failure. If you can become more confident, you can often get rid of some of the fear that holds you back.
How many times have you thought, ‘if only I was more confident’ or ‘if only I could be like ….’, insert the name of a confident person that you know?
If this all sounds rather familiar, don’t worry, it’s not just you, suffering from a lack of self-confidence is far more common that you could ever realise. It’s something that most people face at some point in their lives, some more than others. You might even feel as though self-confidence is not something that is in your control. But, there is almost always something you can do, no matter how things feel, there is always something, however small it might be, there’s always something you can do to push back at the fear.
Taking control, understanding that you are in charge of what happens in your life and how you feel about it is key to improving your confidence levels. Different things work for different people, take a look at www.zenhabits.net for a list of 25 things that you could think about trying, then make a start on developing your own renewed sense of confidence. It doesn’t matter how small the change you make is, or how big the difference it makes is, the fact that you are deciding to take control is what is important.
There are often personal development recommendations that really help too, learning Mindfulness techniques, creating vision boards, working with a life coach, learning about confident body language or doing gym workouts can all help.
Try some self-help books. In recent years, there has been an increase in the number of books on the market that help with confidence and developing a greater level of self-esteem, they all cater for slightly different levels of need and have different approaches to tackling the issue. We think one of the best ones is Self Confidence by Paul McGee, it has some really easy to understand ways of looking at situations that make you realise that so much of what happens in your life can be influenced by your confidence level (or lack of). The Chimp Paradox by Prof. Steve Peters, is a well-known book that provides lots of information and techniques for achieving greater confidence, success, and happiness; it’s highly regarded by business managers and mental health experts alike.
The biggest tip we can give you, is to remember that confidence comes AFTER you achieve things, not BEFORE. It’s not usually possible to be confident about something you have never done before, so feel the fear and go ahead and do it anyway; the confidence will come after.